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A free monthly letter for women who are tired of measuring their worth by how useful they are to everyone else.

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I bought a house in Portugal in five days to escape burnout. The house smelled like mold. My husband stood inside and said, "What have we gotten ourselves into?"

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Four years later, I'm still figuring that out.

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I left a career, a failed business, and a lifetime of being productive, useful, and relentlessly driven to achieve. I moved to a Quinta in Northern Portugal, thinking the hard part was over. Turns out changing where you live is much easier than changing who you are.

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This is a letter about that. The unglamorous, uncomfortable, occasionally wonderful process of a woman in her 50s trying to live for herself for the first time.

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There are recipes, because I cook. There are photos, because Portugal is beautiful. There are renovation disasters and garden failures and dinners that stretch for hours.

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But underneath all of it is one question I keep sitting with: what's left when you stop being useful to everyone else?

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If you're asking that question too, this is for you.

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This newsletter is free. Pass it to someone who needs it.

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